I was at the Port Sydney Community Centre, for a wonderful Christmas celebration.
I sat across from a lady who was really struggling because she was grieving (I am a grief magnet!). Her husband died a few months ago. She left the room and when she came back she said, “I’m sorry I had to leave for a moment, I was having a hard time”. I replied, “You know it’s OK to allow your grief. It’s OK to allow your tears.” She smiled and in the next moment was having fun as everyone sang and kids ran around. The most important message I want to share with everyone is: It’s OK to acknowledge and allow your grief, but it’s also OK to take grief breaks! It’s OK to be a part of the festivities, even if you are grieving. Have laughter and joy in between all the grief. Don’t ignore your grief, but certainly take breaks from it. So, if you are grieving—you’ve had a loss, facing life’s challenges or obstacles—enjoy all the moments you can. Easier said than done? Yes, most of this is! But it is worth the effort! If you can have laughter and joy, wonderful! It’s all interwoven sometimes; grief, joy, laughter…it isn’t always just one or the other. Don’t feel bad or guilty. And remember… Take a grief break as often as possible. Enjoy every moment you can!
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Claudette
11/30/2017 08:35:25 am
Much wisdom in this. Often we feel guilty if we are joyful when we have lost someone we love, or if someone has just lost their job etc. We must allow JOY in. Very true..thanks
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Yvonne
11/30/2017 09:53:21 am
So true, isn't it. We are really too hard on ourselves. A good question to ask is, " If it were the other way around, would you want your loved ones to feel joy?" And hopefully the answer is yes (haha!) and so then you can feel joy with more ease, knowing they would feel the same!
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