I was at the Port Sydney Community Centre, for a wonderful Christmas celebration.
I sat across from a lady who was really struggling because she was grieving
(I am a grief magnet!). Her husband died a few months ago. She left the room and
when she came back she said, “I’m sorry I had to leave for a moment, I was having a
hard time”. I replied, “You know it’s OK to allow your grief. It’s OK to allow your tears.”
She smiled and in the next moment was having fun as everyone sang and kids ran around.
The most important message I want to share with everyone is:
It’s OK to acknowledge and allow your grief,
but it’s also OK to take grief breaks!
It’s OK to be a part of the festivities, even if you are grieving.
Have laughter and joy in between all the grief. Don’t ignore your grief, but certainly
take breaks from it. So, if you are grieving—you’ve had a loss, facing life’s challenges or obstacles—enjoy all the moments you can. Easier said than done? Yes, most of this is!
But it is worth the effort! If you can have laughter and joy, wonderful!
It’s all interwoven sometimes; grief, joy, laughter…it isn’t always just one or the other.
Don’t feel bad or guilty. And remember…
Take a grief break as often as possible. Enjoy every moment you can!
Yvonne Heath is a Canadian leader, Inspirational Speaker, Blogger, Television Host, Author and Creator of the #IJustShowedUp campaign.