Monthly Take Aways #4
Every month I am sharing one of my 7 Take Aways on living life to the fullest,
learning to grieve and support others and having “The Talk” about end of life…
long before it arrives and diffusing the fear.
Today I am sharing Take Away #4; to be empowered, resilient and compassionate…
Show Up For Yourself First!
Last month I shared Just Show Up, when someone is grieving,
in crisis or facing one of life’s challenges. BUT, if we want to be able to show up for others,
we need to show up for ourselves first!
Be the very best version of yourself that you can be. This means being a great self-care giver.
If you are, you will be able to show up for others, you will be able to be that village
(Take Away #2) and if you are not a great self-care giver, you will end up needing to be cared for by others. But, if you’re not, you’re probably a lot crabbier than you think!
In our family, to remind us to be great self-care givers and for times we are grieving--
I don’t know about you, but when I am grieving, I am a hot mess (and I won’t
apologize for that!) and I can’t even think—we’ve created our Self-Care Toolboxes!
My beautiful box is filled with books, trinkets that remind me of wonderful times,
letters from patients and families and many things that make me feel better.
And really soft tissue for a good cry. I dive in when I’m having a bad day, grieving or
when I need a reminder that I have value and I need great self-care.
My children have also created their own Self-Care Toolboxes because it is so individual.
We grieve differently and different things make us feel better. And that’s ok!
And Geordie, my husband, his is a dirty old fishing box with keys to the garage,
duct tape and not much else. But hey, hat’s all he needs. No judgement.
So if you want to be that village, if you want to be able to Just Show Up for others,
Show Up For Yourself First!
You have value, you matter and you are a gift to others when you are a great self-care giver. And a great example too!
Donna Werth Smith
1/25/2018 08:17:52 am
Hi Yvonne, this email came at just the right time. Yesterday was 21 years since my youngest sister Laurie passed away. I celebrate her each year but as I get older it sometimes seems harder without her. So instead of being sad I started an exercise program that I kept telling myself I would do. Thanks for your video. Donna
1/25/2018 09:25:56 am
Thanks for sharing this Donna. It is amazing, isn't it, how we grieve forever is one way or another. We don't get over it, it becomes part of us. The trick is to acknowledge and allow your grief, no matter how long it's been, then do something great, like exercise! Good for you!!! :)
1/25/2018 09:21:27 am
I have all kinds of goodies in my self care box!
1/25/2018 09:27:16 am
It really is. The more tools we have before grief arrives, the softer the landing we create. So important to take good care of ourselves throughout the grief journey!
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