Grief, Joy Tears and Laughter
There are times of great celebration in life; birthdays, anniversaries, holidays and for many of us Christmas (or whatever you would like to call it). But even with great joy and laughter will be moments of grief and tears; perhaps discomfort in delivering a baby, sleepless nights that lead to tears, holidays with
lost luggage, lizards crawling everywhere in your tropical paradise
or even your first Christmas without a loved one.
The same thing happens in times of grief. Yes, there are more tears and more grief, but there can also be great moments too. Joy and laughter; reminiscing about great times, remembering something your loved one did that made you laugh hysterically, seeing family or friends you haven’t seen in a long time,
getting a message from a someone far away, or a neighbour showing up with your favorite dessert.
These moments can bring joy and laughter, even in the times of your deepest grief.
So, I invite you to reach out to the grieving, especially at times like Christmas, when grief can be felt
more deeply. Send them a message, call, have tea, mail a card, shovel their driveway or listen to them
tell a great story about the person they miss. Do whatever you can to “Just Show Up”
for the grieving, the lonely, and those who are struggling.
And if it is you that is grieving, choose to believe that your heart will heal. It will never be the same,
it may be battered and scarred, but it will heal. Seek out those moments where you feel joy
in remembering or even try to have a laugh. It’s OK. Grief is hard and allowing yourself
some of these lighter moments will help ease that pain.
Dogs are not people, but they are cherished family members. This will be our first Christmas without a dog. Strange. A little empty. But we are looking at funny pictures, laughing at the things they did,
like sleeping under the tree, chewing presents or removing Christmas ornaments from the tree.
We will remember our beloved pets and all the happiness they brought.
I wish each and every one of you much joy and laughter in your life and
know that we are always here for you.
12/14/2016 09:14:19 am
Merry Christmas to you and your family.
12/14/2016 10:24:19 am
Merry Merry Christmas to you and your family, Denise. Thank you for all of your wonderful blog comments. All the best in 2017! xo
12/14/2016 10:20:47 am
That's a wonderful quote, "I never hid my love so why should I hide my grief?" I know a few people who have been told it was time to get over it ! So cruel and such a lack of understanding.
12/14/2016 10:27:07 am
That is exactly why I do what I do, Wendy. We don't know what to do with grief, so we want it to go away..."get over it." But the truth is, the more we allow, acknowledge, accept and feel our grief, and the grief of others, the more our hearts will heal. We can help each other get better at this! Most people are compassionate, they are just afraid of grief!
12/14/2016 02:25:01 pm
They are high...for so many. When we are full of sorrow, we have to allow it and look for the joy. When we are full of joy...how wonderful to share it with those who are struggling! :)
12/16/2016 06:12:16 am
Thank you for making such a huge difference in my life - thank you for walking this journey with me. May Christmas be a memorable one with much laughter and may 2017 shower you and your family with abundant blessings. xxx
12/16/2016 06:20:26 am
Dianne, I am so glad we've met. You've given me more than you'll ever know. Thank you for your kind words. I am honoured to walk this journey with you, and will be on it every step of the way, however I can! Sending you and your family much love and joy, now and always! xxxooo
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Yvonne Heath is Canada's Proactive Living Consultant. She is a Speaker, Television Host, Award Winning Author
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