As I help people—and myself—navigate their way through the maze we call life, I am called to tend to broken hearts. I am not flinching, this is why I am here. I am so deeply honoured and privileged to be invited share someone’s most private time; when they are grieving or in the dying process themselves. Imagine being there and making a difference.
Once we understand and accept what choices we have, we can move forward, just a little bit at a time. And if we are called to be present at end of life, we can make the choice to give our whole heart and soul. We always get it back! We can laugh, we can cry, we can be a hot mess. And that’s ok. We can’t cure death, we can’t avoid grieving. It is the only path to healing. But we can be there, be present, and just love as much as possible.
We don’t always have the choices we wish we had. We can’t stop death.. But we can choose to leap out of our anger, our comfort zone, our need to “fix it” and be there, really be there.
What do you need to change, to have the courage to be there at the end of someone’s life? (or your pets, like we did with our dog Kuba) Knowing that your heart will ache, that you will grieve deeply, but that you can choose to see this most precious invitation, as an honour and a privilege. That you can make a difference by being there in love and gratitude.
These are my children sharing beautiful last moments with their great-grandmaman.
They showed her toys, ate popsicles while sitting on her knee and loved her.
They were little when she died and don’t remember a lot.
But they remember this, and these pictures remain treasures in their rooms.
What will you need to change?
Can you allow yourself to be there, to be present at the end of someone’s life?
Yvonne Heath is Canada's Proactive Living Consultant. She is a Speaker, Television Host, Award Winning Author
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