Being Present at End of Life
As I help people—and myself—navigate their way through the maze we call life, I am called to tend to broken hearts. I am not flinching, this is why I am here. I am so deeply honoured and privileged to be invited share someone’s most private time; when they are grieving or in the dying process themselves. Imagine being there and making a difference.
Once we understand and accept what choices we have, we can move forward, just a little bit at a time. And if we are called to be present at end of life, we can make the choice to give our whole heart and soul. We always get it back! We can laugh, we can cry, we can be a hot mess. And that’s ok. We can’t cure death, we can’t avoid grieving. It is the only path to healing. But we can be there, be present, and just love as much as possible.
We don’t always have the choices we wish we had. We can’t stop death.. But we can choose to leap out of our anger, our comfort zone, our need to “fix it” and be there, really be there.
What do you need to change, to have the courage to be there at the end of someone’s life? (or your pets, like we did with our dog Kuba) Knowing that your heart will ache, that you will grieve deeply, but that you can choose to see this most precious invitation, as an honour and a privilege. That you can make a difference by being there in love and gratitude.
These are my children sharing beautiful last moments with their great-grandmaman.
They showed her toys, ate popsicles while sitting on her knee and loved her.
They were little when she died and don’t remember a lot.
But they remember this, and these pictures remain treasures in their rooms.
What will you need to change?
Can you allow yourself to be there, to be present at the end of someone’s life?
7/13/2016 10:46:59 am
Touched my heart. Kuba the bundle of love.
7/13/2016 06:50:48 pm
It is a good reminder that people live in our hearts forever! xo
7/20/2016 09:19:49 am
7/20/2016 09:20:56 am
Thank you. xo
8/17/2016 08:46:13 am
Omg Yvonne I remember that visit with mom! It warms my heart to see these pics. Thanks for sharing!xxx
8/17/2016 08:54:41 am
Most special pictures in the world!! xxxoo
7/13/2018 08:26:08 am
Yup, it is important to be present at the end of the life. Because if you mourn for the past or worry about the future, then you can never attain a mental tranquility and you can't enjoy your life. It is truly demanding to live in the present by opposing regressions of past and anticipations of future. Basically, you have two ways to be present. You can be present physically. You can be present mentally and emotionally. I would suggest you need to be present both physically and mentally so that you will remain satisfied with all forms of living aspects.
7/13/2018 08:51:07 am
Wow, Randy, what an insightful comment. You are so right. And if we can't be present physically, we can still be present emotionally and mentally. We need to do whatever we can to help us navigate this journey of life, grief and death. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
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Yvonne Heath is Canada's Proactive Living Consultant. She is a Speaker, Television Host, Award Winning Author
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